Struggles After Moving to the USA – Is This Normal in Married Life Here?

Hi everyone,

We’ve been living in the USA for a little over 3 years now. I work in a tech job, and my wife is a homemaker taking care of our kids. We’ve been married for 7 years.

Since moving here, I’ve noticed a significant change in my wife’s behavior, and I’m trying to understand it better. Back in India, she used to manage almost all the household chores without much complaint. But here, things feel very different. She often seems stressed and asks me to share more of the household responsibilities.

I completely understand that life here is different and more demanding in its own ways, and I do try to help as much as I can. But my job is quite demanding, and by the time I get home, I’m already exhausted. When I’m asked to do more, it sometimes feels overwhelming for me too.

Unfortunately, this has started leading to frequent arguments. At times, I feel like the conversations turn disrespectful, which is something I never experienced earlier in our relationship.

I’m genuinely trying to figure out what’s changed. Is it the lifestyle here? Lack of support system? Increased stress? Back in India, we had family and help around, but here everything falls on us.

Some of my friends say this kind of situation is quite common among couples in the US, but I’m not sure how to navigate it in a healthy way.

Would really appreciate hearing from others who’ve gone through something similar. How did you handle it? Any advice would help.